By:Deepak Chopra and Kabir Sehgal – CNBC Make It
If you want to win the New Year, it’s important to break bad habits – like consuming things that aren’t good for you. We’re not just talking about cutting back on calories. There’s something else you should slash from your life: complaints.
Complaining is a bad habit. Your brain likes to identify patterns. So when you moan, you become a pessimist who trains your brain to look for the “bad” in things. Your mind will detect things you don’t like more often. This will only leave you feeling dissatisfied, frustrated and powerless because you can’t do anything about it.
Consider all the things you might carp about – the cold weather, slow traffic, underpaid job, mean manager, or a jealous spouse. Unless you’re actually going to do something about it – like get a new job or change your commute – it doesn’t help to whine. In fact, complaining is downright unhealthy because it can boost your cortisol levels and cause stress. Moreover, you might even turn off others because nobody wants to be around a downer.
Instead, start 2018 by hitting the reset button on complaints and follow these three steps of the “complaint diet.”
First, close your eyes and notice whatever it is that you want to grumble about. Just observe how it makes you feel. Second, tell yourself that you can’t do anything about it. Third, take a deep breath and let it go.
You can even add a fourth step which is to recite to yourself the things for which you’re grateful like good health, loving family, a decent paycheck. By doing so, you’ll start to focus on what’s going right versus what isn’t.
When you follow these steps, you will stop saying negative things aloud and to yourself. And eventually, you won’t even think them. Rather, you will train your brain to see the “good” in things, and that can lead to all sorts of positive effects.
Indeed, complaining less might be more beneficial to your health then a new gym membership. Perhaps you will feel less physical pain and discomfort, as positive thinking has been credited with reducing cardiovascular disease and increasing lifespan.
By reducing or even eliminating your desire to criticize, you will adopt an impactful habit that will set you up for success in the coming year.